When people ask me whether I have a positive or negative outlook in life, I’d usually choose the middle ground and respond with “realistic”.However, since each one of us might have different realities, it can’t really be objectified. Very rarely we hear stories of people who have gone through hell, but somehow got back up […]
What doesn’t kill you, makes you….
“Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying.”
How do you manage facing rejection on the way to your dreams?
Rejection in any way can be disheartening, but when we feel we have no way out, it may seem like the end of our dreams.
Sometimes, when we follow our dreams, things don’t always go as planned. Opportunities are missed, chances are lost, or doors are closed. We feel disheartened and think that our dreams will never come true until we turn around and find that there is another opportunity, a chance of life, waiting for us.
You will face many obstacles on the way to success. Don’t give up when one door closes. Look for other options, and explore what else you can do. Life would have opened another pathway; you just need to find it for yourself.
Don’t lose your mind yet, it’s a fresh year and better still I assure you you’re on track to finding your green pasture.
Hope Alive!
I struggle to find words for the entitled person. They are one of the worst of humans.
If you give to them, they reward you with spite because they believe they deserve it anyway. Their appreciation is merely perfunctory.
“I’ve been a loyal friend to him all these years. Why won’t he do that for me”.
“I paid his house rent in 2001. He’s refunded but then, he ought to remain grateful”.
“He is my son, it is only expected. I suffered over him”.
If they offend you, you will first go through the sacrifices humiliation of explaining to them how they were wrong. If after a lengthy argument they finally admit their error and apologize, they want you to start smiling at them immediately and “let bygone be bygone”. If you still hurt and need time to heal, they are hurt because they simply cannot understand how you fail to know that they deserve forgiveness and don’t deserve to be kept waiting for something that is their right. Just imagine, and they have apologized for that matter! They can even accuse you right from that point of being unforgiving and preach to you from religion and psychology how failure to forgive is bad for you. Entitled people feel, “Why, he should forgive me of course, I’ve been nice most of the time”. Entitled people can’t tell God they are sorry. They come armed with the good deeds they have done and demand accounts so God should subtract the “little” bad from the massive goods and give them the balance.
Give the entitled man or woman a slice of your time and they sit pretty and demand the key to the termination minute.
“You always cut the phone on me. You could have been listening to me until you finish boarding and the announcement for people to switch off their phones”.
Return from a trip with something for them and they want to see what you bought for others and wonder why you didn’t give them a chance to make a choice.
Entitled people are control freaks and in some cases, the more manageable ones are those that make demands and are temperamental like children. The worst types don’t even shout or make demands outright. They creep in beneath your skin and manipulate you with charm, sex and niceness which they first habituate you to until you become addicted. From then, they begin to use the technique of a graduated, calculated withdrawal of those emotional goodies to manipulate and control you. The volent ones are easier in some ways. They are petulant children that are now mad husbands who growl on their wives for preparing the meals late and never say thank you to her after eating. They just feel she’s is doing her job like any other waiter or a janitor. But at least they are defined and you can start to make your calculations about their illness. There are wives too that take maximum advantage of husbands who have a nature that wants to please. They take control of their lives and enslave them and turn them into obedient slaves.
Entitled people will frustrate you slowly, sloooooowly, especially if they are very close to you. You will not know they are doing a damage to your inner life until you begin to notice that you breathe better and feel better when they are not around. You start to know that they are in some ways linked to a feeling of lack of freedom and you will start avoiding them. The relationship is now at the brink of an explosive collapse or a gentle necrosis and final browning off.
We want a positive scramble for Africa that will be focused on competitive investments in Africa & support for our infrastructural & developmental activities;NOT a scramble for exploiting our resources,Caging us with loans,building military bases & balkanising us into proxies.
“For centuries under Dutch state authority, human dignity was violated in the most horrific way possible,”
“And successive Dutch governments after 1863 failed to adequately see and acknowledge that our slavery past continued to have negative effects and still does. For that I offer the apologies of the Dutch government,”
With the words above, Mark Rutte, Prime Minister of The Netherlands apologized for its role in 250 years of trading in slaves from Africa in a speech at the country’s National Archives in The Hague today, December 19, 2022.
Slavery still haunts us as people of colour. Imagine disemboweling a people for 250 years, killing their leaders, shattering their families, separating friends and cancelling their culture for that period of five to eight generations.
What really could be left still not derailed of the soul of such a people?
How did they manage to remain with any identity and any national self confidence at all?
In some instances, slave owners turned their female slaves into slaves making machines by impregnating them to make children whom they enslaved. Others commanded the sons of these slaves to do the job of horror for them. Such was the barbarism, the vileness and the thickness of the darkness we are talking about.
Imagine millions of people working for your nation for free. Imagine how you could actually concentrate on other things like science and philosophy and forms and structures of government. Imagine the advantage, the headstart, the mileage it gives you to have free labour for a quarter of a millennium!
We can never truly plumb the depths of the nightmare of Slavery, however hard we try.
What does the Dutch apology come to?
It gets my eyes wet, honestly, because it makes me wonder if really he understands. Does he understand? Well, it is at least okay he tries to. We can begin a good process from there.
“At this point, I often wonder whether or not education is fulfilling its purpose. A great majority of the so-called educated people do not think logically and scientifically. Even the press, the classroom, the platform, and the pulpit in many instances do not give us objective and unbiased truths. To save man from the morass of propaganda, in my opinion, is one of the chief aims of education. Education must enable one to sift and weigh evidence, to discern the true from the false, the real from the unreal, and the facts from the fiction. The function of education, therefore, is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically.” Martin Luther King Jr.
Good morning
I attended many events where people of different degrees of knowledge spoke about the themes of those respective events. Some of the speakers made excellent presentations that I wished they had not left the podium upon the lapse of the time allocated to them. We listened to them with rapt attention because of their level of wisdom and, perhaps, knowledge. Some of the things they presented there were not entirely new to us, but the methods they adopted were interestingly new.
Recall on the external lectures we had; Some people are blessed with wisdom. They may lack enough knowledge of a particular subject-matter, but they apply wisdom to fill in the gap, attracting applause and admiration from all directions. On the other hand, some people possess deep knowledge of the subject-matter, but they hardly win the attention of the audience. Although these speakers may be saying something entirely new and beneficial, but because they lack the wisdom to steal the attention of the audience, their presentation becomes entirely boring.
One of the speakers I listened to in such events just presented a short story and left the podium. The hall vibrated with standing ovation until the speaker returned to his seat. It was a story full of lessons that a speech of one hour could not really be better. Another speaker did not begin his presentation until he moved away from the high table, telling the audience that the high table was indeed a symbol of tension. The action and the statement alone invited our full attention to his presentation.
Of course, there is knowledge and there is wisdom. Wisdom, at times, speaks louder than knowledge and, at all times, complements knowledge.
Hussaini Babila
Miracle is the exception.
Principles are the general rule.
Many Africans nay Nigerians were raised with miracle mindset.
This is why it is very hard for them to recognize progress…..change….growth. It is why PONZI is also common and popular.
It is why so many people are always seeking that ONE DEAL…that one contract that will change everything for them overnight.
It is why they do not prioritize process, principles and protocols.
It is why so many things could be happening around them in their favour without them recognizing them.
A tree will take years to grow….it will keep growing and growing until it reaches fruit bearing maturity. Everything in life follows this principle.
Those who understand and apply principles…who understand process and protocols of life are the ones leading those who are miracle seekers.
The diligent works of your hands will not betray you…good night
Human Rights Lawyer, Chief Malcolm Omirhobo, Storms Supreme Court Dressed In Native Doctor Attire, After The Apex Court Ruled That Muslim Students Can Wear Hijab To Schools In Lagos.
According to reports, when the Learned Lawyer walked into the Supreme Court, the Justices who were on seat looked up in shock, looked at themselves and without a word, went on recess.
In an interview he granted few minutes later, Chief Omirhobo stated that since the Supreme Court has ruled last week that students could wear Hijab to schools in Lagos, that means the Court has given every religion a right to dress the way the believers wish to dress and that he has decided to dress like a traditionalist/native doctor from now on to court since the Supreme Court has given religious freedom to all religions!
Hussaini Babila